Easing Gently into a New Year

Our school year begins on Tuesday.  Next week Finn has his first-ever piano lesson, we have our first Classical Conversations class of the new year, and our first soccer game of the year (my husband is the coach). My best friend is also moving to a different state on Tuesday/Wednesday (and her son is Finn's best friend), and my grandfather just broke his hand and foot and is in a wheelchair.  I think the week will be highly emotional, busy as we get into the groove of new activities, and will entail at least one or two visits to my grandmother and/or grandfather.

In order to be kind and gentle to myself and everyone else, we are easing into the school year.  I want to have time next week to focus on relationships (goodbyes to our friends, and pie-baking and cheer-bringing to my grandparents). 

Next week we'll:

*put people above to-do lists

*have our first piano lesson

*get into the routine of art, piano, soccer practice, soccer game, and homeschool group

*get into the routine of practicing piano *every day*

*gently start back up with some Miquon math work 

*focus on learning to efficiently do our new morning chores (I'm adding a few for Finn this year)

*give grace to everyone! 

"And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart." --Galatians 6:9

An Impromptu Yard Bouquet

Annie and I collected this one over the weekend: crepe myrtle, hosta leaves and a prolific pasture weed--in a jelly jar. 

My Second Grade Checklist

A few people wanted to see the school checklist I described recently--so I am posting bits and pieces of it here.  I get a little anxious at posting things like this for several reasons: 1) a checklist is not real life, it's just a guide; 2) I follow nothing slavishly; 3) your way is probably the best way for you.....

The most important question to ask before developing a system is--what's the point?  For me, the point is primarily teaching math and reading (and not much more, not at this age!), and secondarily introducing our children to beauty through good stories, music, pictures, and ideas.  A longer-term point for me is helping my children become the people God made them to be.  To that end I try to teach to the child I have, not the child I once was.  That means if something doesn't work for us, I change it. 

My checklist is one that I created after looking carefully at the Year One Ambleside Online checklist.  I created my own table in a Word document, changed some things to suit my needs, shrunk it to one page, and color-coded it so that I will know which days of the week I'd like to do which things. No lesson-planning!

The full page has a 12-week schedule; here's a sampling of the first few weeks.  The readings do roughly follow the original at Ambleside but I did some rearranging, adding and subtracting of books in order to meet our own needs.  For Ambleside's full, original term-by-term checklist you'll need to skip over to it on their site. This is just my own version.

The top section contains the readings.  We read from some books weekly, some every other week, and some only once or twice a term. 

The second section contains the daily-ish skills work.  This is the heart of our homeschooling in terms of my priorities. Math, reading, handwriting, piano. If I only check these off on any given week, I'm a happy camper because these are the foundation of our schooling.  

Finally I grouped together 'weekly subjects'--topics we will cover once or twice a week.  "Art" and "Piano" are actual lessons taught by someone else.  The other things are basically activities or readings that we will fit into our lives pretty organically (music, pictures, nature, handicrafts).  The "konos" section is just for a few preschool activities I've chosen for Annie, who is 3.  Health, Responsibility and Geography are just readings we do casually and discuss. All of this is easy, not formal, not schoolish, and--most importantly--not stressful for me. 

School fits into the morning hours for us--after morning chores (which are essential!). I do not do school in the afternoons--there are walks to take, swings to swing, meals to cook, games to play.   The exceptions to this are handicrafts, nature study and some Konos with my preschooler--just fun stuff. We do schoolwork four days a week; one day a week we have our homeschool group and I only schedule in nature study for that day.  

The most important thing is just to make a checklist that works *for you*!

Staying Happy at Home: My Ten Essentials

I'm an affirmed and unapologetic homebody, but this has not always been the case. I've always longed to be home, but there was a season in my life when I ran away from home a lot--frankly, I didn't know *how* to be at home.  When I was at home I distracted myself, and I had a hard time putting forth the initiative to actually create the home I wanted to have.  I don't mean the physical act of decorating, exactly; I mean nuts-and-bolts--functional routines and ambiance. I never learned this when I was growing up, and I entered adulthood with a deep desire to create a home but no actual skills!  When we were first married I had no idea how to hardboil an egg, and I was bemused to the point of giving up when I thought about how to clean regularly.  The routines I eventually began to create and follow were deeply informed by Cheryl Mendelson, in whose debt I will always remain.

Unfortunately housekeeping gets a bad rep as drudge work; I grew up with the idea of a homemaker as an oppressed and pitiful soul who whiled her life away on the most mundane tasks--even though I loved the idea of cleaning and organizing.  Somewhere along the line my attitude was rehabilitated, probably because I began to want to create a home for my family that mimicked the love my own childhood home had...but with more order and passing-on of skills.  I began to see the inherent dignity and value in domestic work.

As this summer has passed my thoughts have centered somewhat on home routines and particularly how to stay happy while engaging in home-based learning.  I created a list of 'ten essentials' that I wish to do each day: 

1. Cook good food and stay on top of the kitchen.  Every day we have to eat, so kitchen work is essential.  I've opted to have a good attitude about all the kitchen work (because cooking is not my favorite thing).  

2. Don't ever stop the laundry. If the laundry train halts for four days, we are in crisis mode!  I can take a day off when we go places, run errands, etc.  but in general in our household of four people, a busy kitchen, a man who does a lot of running/exercising, country life (messy!)--I do laundry each day.  I do take Sundays off. 

3. Figure out the daily housekeeping tasks that make things pleasant and make me happy, and try to do them.  For me: making the beds, keeping the main rooms and our bedroom tidy (the main room gets cluttered during the day, but my children do their tidying before bed and all is well), and keeping the main bathroom fresh are the absolute essentials. When everyone is in bed, I want to sit down in the living room and rest in a tidy room. If I want a hot bath at night, I don't want to feel grossed-out by the bathroom!  

4. Learn with my children.  Don't just administer learning to them; partner with them.  Come alongside and figure out concepts or learn something new together.  It is more fun for everyone that way--and also more effective. 

5. Play with and/or read to my children each day. 

6. GO OUTSIDE.  Even if it's just to read a book or walk around the yard.  Even if it's just to pull some weeds or check the garden.  Kick the soccer ball to a child, take a walk, eat a snack. Fresh air is a cure-all. 

7. Make something that lasts.  (In other words: dinner doesn't count. It doesn't last.) I like to write something or sew something. 

8. Stretching.  Weird?  Maybe.  But I have noticed that stretching (in the form of yoga or pilates--or just stretching) helps me stay happy.  

9. Rest. The days when I feel the most strung-out are, not coincidentally, the days when I've not rested enough.  I like to stay very busy, and I'm amazed at how refreshing it is to have a cup of tea and a little reading for 20 minutes in the afternoon, or how much better I feel if I stretch out for a 10-minute catnap.  Carving out a couple of short rest periods every day, instead of racing to the bedtime finish-line and then collapsing, makes my day so much better. 

10.  Pausing.  I try to pause frequently to just observe a child's smile or look out the window to see what the sunlight is doing or check in with myself to see how I'm feeling.  Pausing for a moment keeps me focused in the moment.  I like that. 

On the nonessential list are: major projects, most cleaning tasks, a lot of 'extra' obligations, tons of exercise (sigh. I love exercise), large chunks of time spent reading for pleasure, watching movies, surfing the Internet, learning new skills, shopping, etc. These are all enjoyable, but during this season of life they take a backseat.  Do I still watch movies, clean, exercise, read books, surf the 'net? Yes! But they are not priorities, and definitely not daily essentials during this season of life. 

That's how I stay happy at home!